Halloween 2018 in Guiyang

Guiyang Expat Pallvi during a Halloween Party.

The Halloween tradition is very old in Guiyang. No one really knows how it was first celebrated, but it did come with a wave of a trend to follow west..

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Syed Saalim Hashmi and Pallvi during Halloween 2018

Some people say Halloween is a Welsh, or Celtic tradition, while others say its roots are Christian, but for today’s generation it doesn’t really matter anymore. We just like to get dressed up like fools, go to parties, and eat lots of candy!

Pallvi. finally showed up at my door. She was strikingly beautiful. She was dressed as a fairy princess and was glowing in her black gown. “You look amazing,” I told her. She just laughed and said, “I know,” and tapped me with her wand.

Momo : one of our youngest and cutest Guiyang Expat celebrating Halloween.

 

New Obsession Jazz Bar is Open

Sunday evening, Oct 28, I visited the New Obsession Jazz Bar on Suidong Lu at Hong Yan Bridge. Martin was wonderful on the piano and the Jazz Band did well with an international selection of musicians.

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You can call the manager of the New Obsession, Mr. Wang Bin — 13984028732 .

See also: Original Obsession

Wedding of a Dermatologist with a Gynaecologist in Guiyang. Why Doctors only marry Doctors

Syed Saalim Hashmi and Nargis with renowned Dermatologist from Guizhou People’s hospital Dr. Jeremiah and Dr. Lu Joao, a senior IVF expert from Department of Obs & Gynae during their wedding reception. 

Fifty years ago, it was very uncommon to find doctors married to other doctors. Why? To answer that question, we need to explore the sociology of the time. Fewer women went to college, which meant fewer female doctors. Many couples married early, right out of high school or right after college. If the wife had career aspirations herself, these were often put aside in order to help her husband get through medical school.

 

Today, men and women often delay marriage until their late twenties or early thirties for a variety of reasons. For many, they want to achieve career success before adding the demands of family. Others simply don’t feel ready to settle down at 22 years old, the way their parents did.

Given the rigor and all-consuming nature of medical school and residency, this is particularly true for doctors. As many more young doctors enter the final stages of their training still single, there is more opportunity to find the perfect mate among their colleagues.

When doctors marry doctors

The epitome of office romance, flirtation between young residents or between nurses and doctors may seem like something straight out of an ER or Greys Anatomy script. But who would better understand the stress young residents face than another resident (or nurse)?

Think about who you spend most of your time with and the social circles you find yourself in. Likely, you are mostly surrounded by other doctors and health professionals by necessity; there is not much time for outside pursuits, right? When young doctors spend 60 to 80 hours per week at the hospital, and the rest of their free time studying, the bonds that form among fellow residents and hospital staff become very important.

 

According to the Kaiser Family Foundation, around 47 percent of medical school graduates in the United States are female, and in some states, that percentage creeps even closer to 50 percent. It is very likely for doctors to be attracted to and pursue a relationship with someone they spend a lot of time with. AMA Insurance reports in the 2014 Work/Life Profiles of Today’s U.S. Physician that 40 percent of doctors marry other doctors or health care professionals.

The benefits

There are several obvious benefits to the formation of romantic attachments between doctors and their peers or colleagues. Probably the most obvious is that another doctor or health professional knows what you are going through. They understand the stress, the guilt, the sleep deprivation, the grief, the fear. They also understand the passion for healing and the desire to care for others, and that the duty and responsibility often comes before self or the relationship.

While this is not to say that someone outside the health profession can’t be supportive (remember, over 50 percent of doctors also marry outside the field, with often successful results), it can be very affirming to know you can cut loose without fear of being misunderstood.

Communication between health professionals is often easier. The medical shorthand and complex jargon is sometimes difficult for people outside the health fields to understand. Since doctors live and breathe medicine 16 hours/day, it can be difficult to turn that off when you come home and frustrating to constantly explain terminology.

On the other side of the examination table, it may also be difficult for a doctor or health professional to relate to career challenges and office politics a spouse may face in non-health-related careers, which can be frustrating for the spouse. For this reason, shared experiences, common language, and similar priorities of couples who both practice in the medical profession can be beneficial in developing strong marriages.

The challenges

While there are many benefits to choosing a partner from within the healthcare profession, there are certainly challenges. The practice of medicine tends to attract certain strong personality types. Medical schools train doctors to be decision makers, often in life-or-death situations. It’s very difficult to turn off that intellectual authoritarian persona when you arrive home. If you are also married to a doctor, then inevitable clash of who gets to be the decision maker could be epic. While marrying another doctor may benefit you in terms of easier communication and shared experience, you may both need to work hard to cultivate a different set of skills at home: compromise and humility.

But what if your spouse or partner is not a doctor but another member of the health care profession (nurse, physical therapist, administrator, etc.)? Doctors and nurses (and other health care professionals) may share common experiences and communicate on a similar level, but they view their roles and contributions through different lenses. Neither is right or wrong, just different. Being able to view the world through your partner’s lens may not only help you be a better spouse, but may also give you insights that will help you be a better doctor. While extremely worthwhile, this task isn’t easy.

Other challenges that may face couples in the health care professions revolve around work-life balance. This is true for many people in demanding careers, but few careers are as all-consuming as health care. It’s not only the work hours, but health care providers pour so much of themselves into their work — their passion, their devotion, even their emotions — that there is often little left at the end of the day for outside pursuits and for putting effort into relationships. If both partners are consumed in this way, it makes relationships all the more challenging.

Exacerbating the emotional challenges are the logistical ones: competing work schedules, reliable child care, etc. Some couples even find it difficult to schedule time off or vacation time together, especially if they work in the same hospital.

A growing trend

Statistics seem to indicate that the trend of doctors choosing lifemates from within the medical community will continue to grow. Like any relationship, these marriages can be happy and fulfilling with a little work and effort. These marriages don’t require more effort than the typical marriage, but doctors typically have much less left to give at the end of the day. To make marriages between health professionals work, understanding the challenges you will face and developing coping mechanisms early in your relationship will be helpful

 

More Fun on the Bus

I was waiting for the bus at Dayingpo and it seemed to be taking a long time.  Bus 86 delivers me directly to my front door in Poly Hot Springs area so it is convenient. My back hurt and I was thinking that maybe “They” were right, that maybe I am too cheap and should take a taxi. The difference would only be less than two USD, 14 rmb  vs  1.8 rmb.

I was leaning against a tree and something kind of big hit my shoulder, like a big cockroach or something. I quickly brushed it off with a well practiced evasive maneuver and it turned out to be bird turd, which was the blackest, largest, and juiciest bird turd I have ever seen in my 67 years. It could have hit me in the middle of the head . . . MamaMia, three more inches. All I could think of was the old nursery rhyme: “Birdie, Birdie, in the Sky dropped a bird turd in my eye. It don’t hurt. I don’t cry. Gee I’m glad that cows don’t fly.”

It was a crowded mess at the bus station so I started searching for a package of tissue, but no stores were nearby. A lady was handing out flyers for some silly sale, and it was on really cheap paper, not shiny at all . . . very absorbent.I thanked her and pulled the other hand out of my pocket to hold the coat while I wiped the shoulder off. The flyer worked great. So a young man stepped right into my face waiving a 100 rmb bill in front of my nose. It had fallen out of my pocket when I pulled my hand out of my pocket.

I smiled, took the money, and tried to thank him, but he was gone. Only in Guiyang can you interact with nature and a couple friendly citizens in a 90 second time frame. The 86 bus showed up and in fifteen minutes I was feeding my blackened jacket into the washing machine. . .

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Fun on the Bus with Chris and Riding the Bus

Fatima Khan’s book ‘A December Evening’ captures everyone’s heart in China.

Whether you talk about Coffee Reading Salons or English Libraries, Dr. Fatima Khan’s collection of short stories ‘A December Evening’ has spilled a frenzy everywhere.

A December Evening is indeed an epitome of tamed brilliance and creativity.  All the short stories are exquisite. The book is like a warm beautifully woven blanket, you don’t feel like coming out once you slip in.

Fatima packs in quite a cerebral punch in her book.

Dr. Fatima Khan was born and brought up in the United Arab Emirates and spent most of her time there. She graduated from Medical School in 2016, travelling regularly to UAE to meet her family while studying in India between 2009 and 2016.
Writing has been her passion for as long as she remembers. She started writing seriously to get marks at school. Post-school she writes to share her experiences, experiences of others she came across and thoughts that romanticise every day conversations.
Her first book of poems, Feelings Take Flight, was published in May 2014. Her first collection of short stories A December Evening, was published in March 2015.
In 2016, she got married and headed to San Diego, California, USA to begin a new chapter in the story of her life. She is currently pursuing her US Medical License motivating herself cooking sumptuous recipes and can be found brainstorming business ideas &/or indulging in new hobbies in her free time.

 

 

A Foreigner Hepatobiliary Pancreatic Surgeon in Guizhou

Meet Dr. Ram Babu Shah, a young  hepato biliary pancreatic Surgeon from Nepal who’s residing in China since 18 years now!

Dr. Ram came to the People’s Republic of China in 2001 as a bachelors student, now he is the first foreigner professor of medicine in the Guizhou Medical University. Born and raised in Nepal, He attended Sichuan Medical School and trained in surgery.  After obtaining his bachelors degree in medicine, masters in Surgery and a PHD, Dr Ram now looks forward to enhance the performance of his students in the operating room and train them to become outstanding surgeons.His clinical interests include pancreatic, liver diseases and hepatocellular cancer.

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Dr. Ram delivering his lecture at an International Surgery forum

Dr. Ram Babu Shah was trained in West China Hospital, the second best hospital in China as per the rankings.

He can fluently speak Mandarin, English, Nepalese and Hindi and has been a favourite of his students, colleagues and patients.

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A Chengdu TV program titled Looking West to Chengdu recently produced a special documentary about the life of Nepali doctors in Chengdu and was broadcasted on the news channel of ABC TV Nepal. Dr. Ram played a very important character in that documentary.

Currently he’s living in Huaxi University town with his wife Dr. Sushila who’s also a senior doctor and his one year old son Mithil.

Story of a Young Champion in Guizhou who is bracing himself for UFC

As the whole world is going gaga over Khabib Nurmagomedov who yesterday fought the perfect fight. Too bad it was overshadowed by his antics after it was over. … Meanwhile, Nurmagomedov admitted he would have to be cautious initially before taking McGregor to the ground and mauling him.

As I try to get over this bizarre  propaganda & cacophony about UFC, I bumped into a 19 year old Teenage heartthrob, who is currently the heavyweight boxing champion in Guizhou and aspire to fight in UFC within the next 4-5 years. Here’s how he describes his journey in this beautiful article penned by him.

Hello to all the lovely people out here reading this article,
My name is Urison Kokulbekov and I was born and raised in a Muslim family that comes from the beautiful and picturesque valley of Pamir Mountains in Tajikistan 🇹🇯

 I was born on 15th of May 1999 in Roshtqala, Pamir, Tajikistan. I took admission in school in 2006 . I studied in a small primary school where I got my first experience of life.
When I was in middle school, I was unsure what I wanted to do in life because I enjoyed all kind of sports. I decided, I could only do one sport for a living that I truly enjoyed. The two things that I have enjoyed the most in my life are boxing and studying. So I started training in 🥊 boxing and kickboxing.

These sports are very popular in my country just like soccerl in the USA and Cricket in India, England and Australia. From my middle school till now, I participated in many competitions such as Boxing, Soccer ️ and Science Olympiads.

In future I want to combine Boxing as a passion and studies as my career. I graduated from my high school in 2017. After passing high school, I came to People’s Republic of China for my college degree. Now I am here studying Chinese language and want to make career in either medicine, engineering or business administration.

China is the most interesting country on the globe and it always welcome international students and make them feel like a celebrity and provide them bestvamenities and conditions. China is an excellent place to study and make a good career.

In 2017, I participated in boxing competition in China and won, I became the Heavyweight Champion of Guizhou and was presented a beautiful belt by the organisers. Now I am preparing myself for another competition which will be held soon .

CLICK HERE for more information.

Voting in the USA – Chengdu Consulate Rocks

For those of you concerned about voting in the USA, I suggest you get after it.  I was disenfranchised by the Express mail two years ago.  I paid China Post a lot of money and the ballot, which was supposed to be delivered in five business days, arrived at the Clerks office a week late.  See: Fast Mail and Voting

This year I got after it earlier and by contacting my Township Clerk’s office, I was able to file a request for absentee ballot and receive it the same day.  I filled out the request and took a picture with my cell phone. I emailed it to the Township Clerk and she immediately sent me the ballot by email.  I checked with my advisers in the USA on the various ballot issues, Supreme Court Candidates, School Board, etc. and completed my ballot in a couple days.

The American Secretary of State has a website on voting and there is a postage paid envelope available which I used. First I had to get the envelope, with ballot enclosed to the Chengdu Consulate. They put the envelope in a diplomatic pouch and it gets mailed from the USA. A Chinese friend from Chengdu was visiting her parents in Guiyang during the October holiday so I gave the envelope to Daisy. She was going to deliver it to the Chengdu Consulate.

Daisy showed up at the Chengdu Consulate today and was turned away by the Chinese Police guarding the consulate. She wasn’t permitted to enter unless she had an American Passport. She called me, and while she was on hold, I went to the US Embassy website for Beijing.  I called the number and told them the problem.  They put me on hold and called the duty officer. in Chengdu. The Chengdu Consulate was closed due to the holiday.

They put me through to the duty officer, named Ben.  Somehow my call was being handled by the emergency hotline.  I gave Daisy’s phone number to Ben  and the spelling of her name.  He got after it.  He was near the Consulate so he either went there himself, or had somebody go outside to find Daisy. Case closed. The ballot will be in the diplomatic pouch tomorrow morning.

I spoke to another American about voting. His state, Washington, has a pure vote by internet system available.  I think each state has it’s own system   I believe that they all take this subject seriously. If you want to vote, you can go to your State’s website, probably the Secretary of State in your state to find out how to do it.  I hope you vote. A democracy is a terrible thing to waste.

World Premiere of the movie ‘Love is a Legend’ held in Guiyang.

Poster of the movie ‘Love is a Legend’

World Premiere of a Chinese movie ‘Love is a Legend’ was held at Wanda Cinemas in Downtown Guiyang.  Movie Starred a beautiful girl from Lithuania Ana Mordynskaja who currently resides in Guiyang, It was produced by Mr. Huo Zhi Wen.

Ana Mordynskaja, a beautiful Lithuanian Guiyang Expat who starred in the movie.

Mr. Huo Zhi Wen, the producer during the premiere.

I had the honor of attending the world premiere of Love is a Legend! To be completely honest when I got the invitation with ‘world movie premiere’ written on the card, I thought they had me confused with someone else. They couldn’t possibly want me to cover an event in the same room with Jennifer Lawrence hahaha, however instead of Jennifer Lawremce, I was ecstatic to meet my celebrity turned old friend Ana who was besieged with Chinese fans for a photograph.

Guizhou TV broadcasted the premiere

Syed Saalim Hashmi posing with Ana Mordynskaja

Foreigner guests with Chinese Viewers during the event.